I can say I disagree with all your points and I would also say that stating the 'community' wants something or not is rather reaching.

For every player that wants one thing I can easily find another that does not want it so best to keep it all as your opinion and not some sentiment of the entire community.

I have never felt the need to build some large base in the Forest, let alone make it defensible. If there is a raid I fight in the field and my bases are utilitarian not artistic.

The grind is no more or less than in other games. The only point that can actually become grindy for many is the Bronze tier, but you can skip over most of it and be fine so that is an 'optional' grind.

We have boats for transportation and they work fine. I personally see no reason for additional mounts as I get around fine on foot and by boat when needed.

Why should a dungeon always have something in it? They are by in large small, easy to navigate and not overly hard to clear depending on the biome. Part of the enjoyment for me in this game is the exploration and discovery.

I could go on, but in the end not every game is for everyone. Much of what you don't like is what makes Valheim unique and thousands upon thousands of players enjoy it. So perhaps the games you mention as doing things the way you like (Rust, Conan Exiles, etc.) might fit your interest more and it would be far easier to play a game that is already the way you like it then to try and change one that isn't into one you want.