Originally posted by Hylox, Bane of Titans:

i have no idea how to do that, i also have a bud that plays with us via internet so lan wouldn't work

It would work with something called virtual LAN. ZeroTier, Hamachi, or anything like that.

LAN is pretty sweet. You would have zero lag. It's the only way I play Valheim, tbh.

Frankly if you're having netcode issues yet the majority of the players are in the same household - it actually sounds insane to pay for a third party server. You could have a better experience, for free...and you're opting to pay for a worse experience. All because you're too lazy to do a few minutes of research? Come on man, get it together.