I think you are looking for World of Warcraft. What you are asking for doesn't exist in games like this. You only really meet people offline via discussion boards and Discord in these types of games.

Well...Rust will have some servers that would make you happy so some others might to, but definitely not this one. The Rust servers are set to have you spawn in with some decent gear and resouces are plentiful. So if some one comes in and destroys your base while you are offline...you are not out much. Here, if I took the poassword off my server I can guaranty days of game time worth of work from multiple people would be gone in minutes.