Originally posted by knighttemplar1960:

Press "V" to turn auto gather off while you are walking to your corpse location. That way you don't pick up extras that interfere with grabbing every thing when you reach your gravestone.

That doesn't help if you were using Megingjord and/or if you equped some armor/weapons before you returned.

IMO, I think just selecting your grave marker should grab at least what is possible (without having to even "take all"), and should prioritize armor, weapons, food, etc. I don't currently need a stack of rock or greydwarf eyes, thank you! :-)