No offense intended, but you are a victim of your own decisions not some malicious mechanic in the game.

If it is your first time playing the game and you are playing blind (no wiki or YT videos, etc.) then stumbling into the Plains before your ready happens. Lesson learned.

But going back again and again to only to meet the same fate...

I will just say some of the best games I have had so far have been the ones I met some terrible fate in and then rebuilt, regeared and revenged.

And I am of the same mind as @PoloniusUlf as any game that has a loop I don't find entertaining then I don't 'grind' or 'work', I just don't play it.