Imma be real with you. In my experience this game does not cater to casual random online play at all. I'd like nothing more than to just hop on a new server naked every once in a while and just goof off with company but it's just not feasable.

Aside from every server being passworded so that you need a personal invitation, the community leans heavily towards very organized play. You will likely be interviewed like you are applying for a job or something in some cases. In the very least everybody shares a progression in a small sense and, since an experienced player can blow through bosses fairly quickly, most servers will expect you to play when they play and at their pace out of fairness.

Also, this community has an odd obsession with discord voicechat that goes beyond a simple desire to communicate a little better....90% of LFG posts are discord and mic or get out weather they advertise it upfront or not.

All that said it is a fantastic multiplayer experience..and there certainly is a server out there that will suit you, but that will absolutely entail you making friends on this game.

There is nothing casual or random about the online play.