Originally posted by retsam1:

It sounds like you and the community that you're playing with are a bit of a mismatch.

In what way? Should my efforts to gather ingredients and make food for them go without any kind of return, or should I not care that they're taking everything because they're claiming they're still going to help me? How do people normally play the game in a group with this kind of role-play? I like farming, but I also want iron to build things.