It may not be your bag but I say give it more time. This was my first game of this type and I love it. It is a bit difficult at first but soon your wife and you will be killing things with ease and building awesome homes. Don't concentrate on leveling your skills but do learn how to upgrade items as it's not as hard as it seems. Recipes will be learned as you gather stuff so keep a look out for anything and everything. It will come naturally to you both shortly. Enjoy