... I have questions.

What, precisely, is "ruining it for the rest of us"? Are you experiencing connectivity issues, and attributing that to the crossplay functionality for some reason? Or are you just mad that the other kids are playing in the same sandbox you are? I'm not experiencing any issues that I can imagine as being related specifically to crossplay.

Don't get me wrong, I totally believe that PC is better than console; I just don't believe that crossplay has any effect on the PC experience (other than being one more potential point of failure in the "house of cards" that is software development). Can you explain what you mean, maybe give us some details as to what you're experiencing?