This is the set I'm currently running with, issue free, against our vanilla server.

BepInEx 5.4.1091
Configuration Manager
Automatic Map Markers - Ship and Cart
AutoPicker
Bigger Pickup Radius
Build Camera
Building Health Display
First Person View
Clock
Combat Stance
Compass
Easy Swimming
Equipment and Quick Slots
Farm Grid
Fermenter Status
Floors Are Roofs
Hotbox / Slope Combat Fix
Hoe Radius
Instant Monster Drops
Map Teleport
Minimal Status Effects
No Smoke Stay Lit
Plant Growth Progress
Real Clock Mod
Repair All
Show Container Contents
Smart Equip
Stations are Containers
Timed Torches Stay Lit
Wind At Your Back
Unrestricted Portals
Quiet Crafting
Quiet Portals
Fence Snap