I am building a list for my friend so I will just do that here and copy-paste for her.

This is a list that me and my OTHER friend have been using on our dedicated for a few days now and we have no complaints:

• Bepinex -- Not a mod per se, but a framework almost all other mods rely on.[valheim.thunderstore.io]
  
• Jotunn the Valheim Library -- Also a prerequisite for many mods.[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Adventure Backpacks -- Adds craftable backpacks with various buff effects which effectively gives you a chest you can carry with you. Anything you place inside it is treated like it weighs half as much.[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Balrond's Containers -- Various containers that change appearance based on what you put in them. Works with all vanilla items.[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Balrond Shipyard -- Allows you to modify the Karve and Drakkar to add different sails, HP, lamps for light and heat, an anchor to stop the boat quickly while aboard, and oars for extra speed[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Bone Appetit -- New foods and food prep constructables.[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Valharvest -- A submod of Bone Appetit with lots of vegetables and more food in general.[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Plant Everything -- Literally lets you plant every plant in the game. You can even plant things that aren't plants, like pickable branches and stones, which then act as ordinary spawners-- also lets you REMOVE those spawners with a cultivator.[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Cart Support -- Lowers the effective weight of the cart by 20% for each additional person near the cart. Yes, it counts if they ride on the cart.[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Speedy Paths -- Gives a speed boost (or reduction if you want to configure it that way) based on what surface you are standing on, with default speed increases made to dirt and stone paths and all types of wood, stone and metal floors. The speed of each surface is individually configurable.[www.nexusmods.com]
  
  
• Extended Player Inventory -- By default, adds 5 slots separated from your common inventory for any gear you are wearing, and adds three hotkey slots bound by default (configurable) to z, x and c. You can also configure this to add rows to your inventory.[www.nexusmods.com]