Agreed on recommending thunderstore. Your easiest option is https://thunderstore.io/package/ebkr/r2modman which includes the option to generate a short alphanumeric key encoding every installed mod and config setting to easily share identical setups.

There are also a few mods that can operate entirely server side, and others that defer to the server's config if installed there.

I have no idea why some people see the simple existence of mods as an assault / insult to the developers. A large amateur community exploring what's possible in the game's space can only benefit its development. Ask Half-life, Warcraft, Skyrim and Minecraft if modding did them any harm.